Refuting The Allegation That ‘Muhammed hit his wife
Aisha’ and more!
In this Post I am going to answer
(refute) some claims that are spread around by Islamophobes on woman, in Islam,
God willing.
Critics of Islam who want to undermine
the character of the Prophet Muhammed (p) have accused the Prophet of beating
his wife Aisha up. The Hadith the critics cite says:
Muhammad b. Qais said
(to the people): Should I not narrate to you (a hadith of the Holy Prophet) on
my authority and on the authority of my mother? We thought that he meant the
mother who had given him birth. He (Muhammad b. Qais) then reported that it was
‘A’isha who had narrated this: Should I not narrate to you about myself and
about the Messenger of Allah (may peace be upon him)? We said: Yes. She said:
When it was my turn for Allah’s Messenger (may peace be upon him) to spend the
night with me, he turned his side, put on his mantle and took off his shoes and
placed them near his feet, and spread the corner of his shawl on his bed and
then lay down till he thought that I had gone to sleep. He took hold of his
mantle slowly and put on the shoes slowly, and opened the door and went out and
then closed it lightly. I covered my head, put on my veil and tightened my
waist wrapper, and then went out following his steps till he reached Baqi’. He
stood there and he stood for a long time. He then lifted his hands three times,
and then returned and I also returned. He hastened his steps and I also
hastened my steps. He ran and I too ran. He came (to the house) and I also came
(to the house). I, however, preceded him and I entered (the house), and as I
lay down in the bed, he (the Holy Prophet) entered the (house), and said: Why
is it, O ‘A’isha, that you are out of breath? I said: There is nothing. He
said: Tell me or the Subtle and the Aware would inform me. I said: Messenger of
Allah, may my father and mother be ransom for you, and then I told him (the
whole story). He said: Was it the darkness (of your shadow) that I saw in front
of me? I said: Yes. He struck me on the chest which caused me
pain, and then said: Did you think that Allah and His Apostle would deal
unjustly with you? She said: Whatsoever the people conceal, Allah will know it.
He said: Gabriel came to me when you saw me. He called me and he concealed it
from you. I responded to his call, but I too concealed it from you (for he did
not come to you), as you were not fully dressed. I thought that you had gone to
sleep, and I did not like to awaken you, fearing that you may be frightened. He
(Gabriel) said: Your Lord has commanded you to go to the inhabitants of Baqi’
(to those lying in the graves) and beg pardon for them. I said: Messenger of
Allah, how should I pray for them (How should I beg forgiveness for them)? He said:
Say, Peace be upon the inhabitants of this city (graveyard) from among the
Believers and the Muslims, and may Allah have mercy on those who have gone
ahead of us, and those who come later on, and we shall, God willing, join you.
(Sahih Muslim, Book 004, Number 2127)
The word that is used in above
Hadith as “Struck” is false; the word in Arabic that is used is “Lahada.”
Edward William Lane explains that the Arabic word “Lahada” means “pushed away”
as you will see below:
[1]
The hand imposition of the prophet
Muhammed (pbuh) it is a gesture driving away evil influence (waswas) and
conferring blessings, it’s nothing bad at all. The intent of the Prophet
Muhammed (p) was to drive away ‘evil influence’ from Aisha. Proof from the following
Hadiths that the prophet Muhammed (p) pushed Aisha (Ra) and never hit her:
Aisha said: “Allaah’s
Messenger (pbuh) never hit anything with his hand ever, except when
fighting in the path of Allaah. Nor did he ever hit a servant or a woman.”
[Recorded In Ibn Majah. Al-Albani graded it Sahih.]
Aisha reports: ”Prophet Muhammed (pbuh) did not hit Anything with his
hands, besides the time when he made Jihaad in the Path of Allah. He
did not hit a servant nor a woman (wife, girl etc.)”.
[Shamaaile‐Tirmidhi (331) Hadith Number 6.]
‘Aisha (May Allah be pleased with
her) reported:
Messenger of Allah (pbuh)
never hit anything with his hand neither a servant nor a woman but of course, he did fight in the Cause of Allah. He never
took revenge upon anyone for the wrong done to him, but of course, he exacted
retribution for the sake of Allah in case the Injunctions of Allah about
unlawful acts were violated. [Muslim Arabic/English book reference
: Book 1, Hadith 644]
As you have read from the above
Hadith reported in three different Hadith Books , the prophet never hit any
woman nor a servant, these statement(s) that the Prophet never hit any woman
are from Aisha own mouth. So, the correct translation is that the Prophet
pushed Aisha, to drive away evil influence, as Aisha makes it evidently clear
that he NEVER hit any woman or servant. That statement from Aisha alone shows
that Prophet Muhammed (p) was never abusive in any shape or form, to any of his
wives. This proves that the translation for the Hadith that says Muhammed
‘struck’ Aisha is false.
Furthermore John Louis Esposito
who is a professor of International Affairs and Islamic Studies at
Georgetown University. Professor John L. Esposito is a Catholic Christian also
cites the above hadith mentioned and makes it clear that nowhere in the Hadith
or Quran is there any record of Muhammed (p) ever mistreating any of his wives,
it does not exist. He writes:
“….the hadith (Prophetic
traditions) note Muhammad’s respect for and protection of women. Muhammad said,
‘The best of you is he who is best to his wife.’ Muhammad’s wife Aisha narrated
that Muhammad never hit any servant or woman and never physically struck anyone
with his own hand. Neither the Quran nor the hadith record Muhammad as
ever mistreating or losing temper with any of his wives, even when he was
unhappy or dissatisfied.[2]”
One last thing that needs to be
clarified is the Arabic word “jihad”. jihad Means striving in the way of God.
To forbid evil and do good. So if someone comes and attacks you, coming on your
land and trying to kill you, you can defend yourself. Jihaad means striving to
live a moral and virtuous life, spreading and defending Islam as well as
fighting injustice and oppression.
Another Hadith which is frequently
quoted by Critics that Prophet Muhammed (p) approved of wife abuse is:
Narrated Umar ibn al-Khattab: The Prophet said: A man will not be asked as to why he beat
his wife.(Abu Dawud, Book 11, Number 2142)
This Hadith is narrated by Umar bin
al khattab and it was mentioned in the following Hadiths books:
Abu Dawood number 2147, Al-Nasai 5/372, Ibn Majah num/1987 And Ahmed Ibn Hanbal
in his Musnad (1/275) and all these books that is mentioned have the same chain
of narrations. This chain which is narrated from Abu Dawud Bin Abdullah Aloudi
from Abdurahman Al-Measly from Al-Ashath Ben qays from Umar Ibn Al-khattab.
This Hadith quoted is considered by
majority of Scholars to be a ‘weak Hadith':
Ibn hajar in his Book
Tahtheeb Al Tahtheeb (6/394) narrating from Abi Al-fatah Al Azdi have counted
this as one of the very weak Hadith and he says about it that it needs to
be overlooked and checked. Most Hadith scholars judged this Hadith to be
weak and to be returned and not be taken from it anything. Ibn Qatan in his
book Bayan Al-Waham and Ibham (5/524) And also Imam Al Zahabi (Dhahabi) he said
in his book that Abdurahman Al Measly is not known, so it is a weak Hadith,
in his book Mezan Al Eatidal (2/602) and also Scholar Ahmed Shaker said the
same, this chain is weak also Scholar Al Albani said the same thing, that
this Hadith is weak in his book Erwaa Al Galiel (7/98) [3]
A Hadith being ‘weak’ means that the
Prophet could not have made the statement, in other words the Hadith is
fabricated. Them words are not from the Prophet Muhammed (p). It is typical of
Christian missionaries to paste Hadiths in their websites, even when a Hadith
is said to be weak and not from the Prophet, they still paste it to lie and
deceive masses that ‘this is what Islam teaches’, when that is not true in
reality. As shown the supposed Hadith is graded as ‘weak’ by majority of
scholars, furthermore you can go to this website below as well, page 98 and 99
where the Scholars speak about this Hadith in great detail showing it’s a weak
hadith:
Third Hadith which is quoted by
Critics
Narrated Aisha: Abu Bakr
came to towards me and struck me violently with his fist and said, “You
have detained the people because of your necklace.” But I remained motionless
as if I was dead lest I should awake Allah’s Apostle although that hit was very
painful. Volume 8, Book 82, Number 828:
Sahih Bukhari 1:7:330, and Sahih Bukhari 6:60:132
Whoever translated the Hadiths above
has translated it wrong. The word above is entailing that the Abu Bakr STRUCK
Aisha. The word in Arabic that is used is “Lakazani”. I will now show what the
correct translation is:
[4]
So as you see Abu bakr poked Aisha
hard. She was never hit with his fist, let me explain:
If Abu Bakr, the father of Aisha really hit her, wouldn’t she at least fall on
the floor from such a blow or even stumble? It doesn’t make any sense. A woman
getting struck by a fully grown man (his father) and yet she still stands
there? The fact that Aisha still stood there, not falling down from the assumed
blow, proves that Aisha was not hit by her father’s fist, but poked hard by her
father.Correct translation would be that Abu Bakr poked her hard.
Quranic
verses and Hadith, the sayings of the Prophet Muhammed (p) on women
1.
Narrated Abu Hurairah (r.a): Allah’s Messenger (pbuh) said: “The believers who
show the most perfect Faith are those who have the best behaviour, and the best
of you are those who are the best to their wives in behaviour” (Tirmidhi, The
Book of Suckling, Chapter: The right of a woman over her husband)
2.
“…Do not retain them (i.e., your wives) to harm them…(Quran, 2:231)”
3.
“If a wife fears cruelty or desertion on her husband’s part, there is no blame
on them if they arrange an amicable settlement between themselves; and such
settlement is best; even though men’s souls are swayed by greed. But if ye do
good and practise self-restraint, God is well-acquainted with all that ye
do.(Quran, 4:128)
4.
Narrated Mu’awiyah al-Qushayri: “I went to the Apostle of Allah
(peace_be_upon_him) and asked him: What do you say (command) about our wives?
He replied: Give them food what you have for yourself, and clothe them by which
you clothe yourself, and do not beat them, and do not revile them. (Abu-Dawud,
Book 11, Marriage (Kitab Al-Nikah), Number 2139 recorded in Ibn Majah as well,
and others. Verified to be Authentic by Al- Albani, As sahihah Number. 687).
5.
Narrated Mu’awiyah ibn Haydah: “I said: Apostle of Allah, how should we
approach our wives and how should we leave them? He replied: Approach your
tilth when or how you will, give her (your wife) food when you take food,
clothe when you clothe yourself, do not revile her face, and do not beat her.
(Sunan Abu-Dawud, Book 11, Marriage (Kitab Al-Nikah), Number 2138)”
6.
Abu Huraira (Allah be pleased with him) reported Allah’s Apostle (may peace be
upon him) as saying: “He who believes in Allah and the Hereafter, if he
witnesses any matter he should talk in good terms about it or keep quiet. Act
kindly towards woman, for woman is created from a rib, and the most crooked
part of the rib is its top. If you attempt to straighten it, you will break it,
and if you leave it, its crookedness will remain there. So act kindly towards
women. (Muslim, The Book of Marriage (Kitab Al-Nikah), Book 8, Number 3468)”
7.
Quran 4:19 “O ye who believe! Ye are forbidden to inherit women against their
will. Nor should ye treat them with harshness, that ye may take away part of
the dower [money given by the husband to the wife for the marriage contract] ye
have given them, except where they have been guilty of open lewdness; on the
contrary live with them on a footing of kindness and equity. If ye take a
dislike to them it may be that ye dislike a thing, and God brings about through
it a great deal of good.”
8.
Quran 30:21 “And among God’s signs is this: He created for you mates from
amongst yourselves (males as mates for females and vice versa) that you might
find tranquillity and peace in them. And he has put love and kindness among
you. Herein surely are signs for those who reflect.”
Commentary for the above passage by
Tanwîr al-Miqbâs min Tafsîr Ibn ‘Abbâs:
(And of His signs) of
the signs of His divine Oneness and power (is this: He created for you spouses)
human beings like yourselves (from yourselves that ye might find rest in them)
so that the husband may find rest in his wife, (and He ordained between you)
husband and wife (love) love of the wife for her husband (and mercy) of the
husband towards his wife; it is also said that this means: love of the young
ones of the old ones and mercy from the older ones towards the young ones. (Lo,
herein) in that which I have mentioned (indeed are portents) signs and lessons
(for folk who reflect) upon what Allah created.[5]
9.
Quran 24:26 “Women impure for men impure. And women of purity for men of
purity. These are not affected by what people say. For them is forgiveness and
an honorable provision.”
10. Narrated Abu Huraira: “Allah’s Apostle said, ‘The strong is
not the one who overcomes the people by his strength, but the strong is the one
who controls himself while in anger.” (Bukhari, Good Manners, Volume 8, Book
73, Number 135)
11. Narrated Abu Huraira: “A man said to the Prophet , ‘Advise
me! ‘The Prophet said, ‘Do not become angry and furious.’ The man asked (the
same) again and again, and the Prophet said in each case, ‘Do not become angry
and furious.” (Bukhari, Good Manners, Volume 8, Book 73, Number 137)
12. Abu Huraira reported: “I heard Allah’s Messenger (may peace
be upon him) as saying: One is not strong because of one’s wrestling
skillfully. They said: Allah’s Messenger, then who is strong? He said: He who
controls his anger when he is in a fit of rage.” (Muslim, The Book of Virtue,
Good Manners and Joining of the Ties of Relationship (Kitab Al-Birr
was-Salat-I-wa’l-Adab Book 32, Number 6314)
13. The Prophet Muhammed (Pbuh) said during the farewell
sermon: “O people, your wives have a certain right over you and you have
certain rights over them. Treat them well and be kind to them for they are your
partners and committed helpers”. (Tirmidhi)
14. Tafsir Ibn Kathir, chapter 68:
Imam Ahmad recorded that `A’ishah said, “The Messenger of Allah never struck a
servant of his with his hand, nor did he ever hit a woman. He never hit
anything with his hand, except for when he was fighting Jihad in the cause of
Allah. And he was never given the option between two things except that the
most beloved of the two to him was the easiest of them, as long as it did not
involve sin. If it did involve sin, then he stayed farther away from sin than
any of the people. He would not avenge himself concerning anything that was
done to him, except if the limits of Allah were transgressed. Then, in that
case he would avenge for the sake of Allah.”
15. Ghazzali’s Ihya Ulum-Id-Din:
“The most perfect of believers in faith are those who are the finest in manners
and most gentle toward their wives.”[6]
16. May Allah grant wisdom, patience and temperament to all
husbands and wives to honour this beautiful relationship. (Hadith Number 2140,
Book of Marriage, Abu Dawud, Volume 2).
Conclusion: I believe I have shown ample of evidences that the Prophet
Muhammad (p) never hit any of his wives. The Hadith that somehow assumed that
the Prophet (p) hit Aisha, was debunked by Aisha’s own statement(s) that,
Muhammed (p) ‘never hit any woman nor servant’.
References:
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